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Why it's never too late to get back in touch

Losing touch with friends happens to us all – whether it was a move, a relationship, a career change, kids or an argument that got in the way, we often find ourselves wanting to get back in touch and reconnect.


What stops us from reconnecting?

p>So, what is it that stops us from getting back in touch? Wouldn’t it make you feel better to rekindle the friendship? Many people cite loss of contact details as the reason they don’t reach out – but using White Pages search tools you can find the information you need in seconds: Type in the surname and last city they were in above to get started.

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But, having found them and with months or years without speaking, it can feel a little awkward to get back in touch - especially If you lost touch due to an argument, or if you’re afraid that the person is angry that you didn’t put in the effort. Making first contact can be a nerve-wracking experience.

The truth is, you only live once so here are some tips on how to find an old friend, re-establish contact and resume your friendship.

How to reconnect

How to go about reconnecting with someone will largely depend on why you lost contact with them in the first place. There’s no failsafe method – you just have to put yourself out there. They might be happy to hear from you, or they might be too busy and have moved on to a different place in their lives. The way you approach them, however, could make a big difference to how they respond.

Tip: The first time you attempt contact, it’s usually best to write. This gives the recipient the time to mull your letter over, and decide whether or not they want to get back in touch. Hopefully, they’ll respond and you can agree a time to meet up or call.

If they don’t, things get a little more awkward – you can either assume that they don’t want to talk, or you can take a risk, assume they just didn’t have time to write and call them.

Here are some tips for your initial letter.

If you drifted apart

If you mutually drifted apart because of circumstances (not because you didn’t really get on!), then reaching out should be fairly straightforward. Send them a note saying that you’ve been thinking about all the good times you had together and that it’s such a shame you’ve lost touch. Finish by saying that you’d love to hear from them and maybe call/get together sometime for a catch up.

If you promised to contact them, and didn’t

This is a slightly more awkward scenario than the above, as it’s possible that the person may be annoyed that you didn’t contact them. Write them a letter saying that you’re really sorry that you didn’t get in touch and that you know that you didn’t handle being busy/starting a new job etc. well. Finish by saying that if it’s OK with them, you’ll give them a call in a couple of weeks – this lets them know that you’re prepared to put the effort in to make it up to them.

If you parted badly

Of all the scenarios this is the most difficult to approach. The best tactic is to not mention anything that you feel was their fault. Simply express that you miss them, that you’ve been thinking a lot about why you fell out, that you’re sorry and would it be possible to let bygones be bygones. You could also try using the same tactic as above – saying that you will call in a few weeks if it’s OK with them – this gives them the opportunity to reply and ask you not to call.

Make Sure You Maintain Contact

This is perhaps the most important tip of all – once you’ve re-established contact, you need to maintain it. This is your chance to prove that the friendship really matters to you, and if you quickly fall back into your old ways, the person will quickly think your initial contact was insincere.

Tip - It’s essential, however, to ensure that the new friendship is reciprocated. If, after a month or two, the person seems uninterested in returning your calls and letters or meeting up, it’s best to let it go and put it down to experience.

We’ve all lost touch with someone in our lives and regretted it. Whether you fell out or simply drifted apart, making contact again can be nerve racking. However, it’s never too late to follow up an old friendship, and you’re more likely to regret not trying.

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